Karyn Prowen

Looking at upsetting and difficult situations in different ways

Karyn — Mon, 22 Dec 2008 19:30:27 +0000

Look at upsetting and difficult situations through a new lens. Adopt a reverse lens to ask, “What would the other person in this conflict say and how might they be right?”

Use a long lens to ask, “How will I likely view this situation in 6 months?”

Employ a wide lens to ask “How can I grow and learn from this situation?”

Coaching can help you to deal with upsetting and difficult situations phone 07789 844933

Habits

Karyn — Mon, 15 Dec 2008 20:48:33 +0000

Habits are what we do when we don’t think. They are very useful. We do not want to think about everything we do, we only want to think about the interesting things. The habits that work well for us are great. They give our life stability. However, when we want to change, our habits resist that change. To change your life, to get through the transition, you will need to change some habits and form new ones.

Once you want to change, habits can be a problem. You are a giant, you have tremendous strength, but lots of little habits can keep you tethered in place like the ropes that bound Gulliver in the book Gulliver’s Travels. He woke up on the beach tied down by hundreds of very thin ropes tied by very small people (the Lilliputians). He was strong enough to break any single rope, but hundreds of them held him fast. He was helpless and we may feel the same in the grips of our habits.

Many habits are formed early in life and we never really examine them. Apparently in India when elephants are young and not very strong they are tethered to a stake in the ground. The young elephant tries to pull free but is not able to and gives up. As the elephant grows stronger, it stays tethered; it never tries again to break free, even though as a full-grown adult it could do so easily. It has obviously decided that the rope is too strong and has given up trying. (Ref: O’CONNOR J & LAGES A Coaching with NLP 2004)

Coaching can be useful for breaking unhelpful habits. Phone 07899 844 933 to find out how.

Optimism and Success

Karyn — Mon, 08 Dec 2008 20:26:08 +0000

In study after study, psychologists have determined that ‘optimism’ is the most important quality you can develop for personal and professional success and happiness. It seems that optimists have 3 special behaviours, all learned through practice and repetition.

1st, optimists look for the good in every situation. No matter what goes wrong, they always look for something good or beneficial. And not surprisingly they always find it.

2nd, optimists always seek the valuable lesson in every setback or difficulty. They believe that difficulties come not to obstruct but to instruct. They believe that each setback or obstacle contains a valuable lesson they can learn and grow from and they are determined to find it.

3rd, optimists always look for the solution to every problem. Instead of blaming or complaining when things go wrong, they become action orientated. They ask questions like, “What’s the solution? What can we do now? What’s the next step?”

Finally, people who are habitually optimistic, positive and upbeat think and talk continually about their goals. They think and talk bout the future and where they are going rather than the past and where they came from. They are always looking forward rather than backward. (Ref: TRACY B Eat that frog 2004)

To be more successful in your life, start thinking and being like an optimist now!

Your beliefs

Karyn — Mon, 01 Dec 2008 19:58:49 +0000

Your beliefs about yourself are largely subjective. They are often not based on fact at all. they are the result of information you have taken in throughout your life and the way you have processed that information. Your beliefs have been shaped and formed by your early childnood, your friends and associates, your reading and educations, your experiences -both postive and negative-and a thousand other factors.

The worst of all beliefs are self-limiting beliefs. If you believe yourself to be limited in some way, whether or not it is true, it becomes true for you. If you believe it, you will act as if you were deficient in that particular area of talent or skill. Overcoming self-limiting beliefs and self-imposed limitations is often the biggest obstacle standing between you and the realisation of your full potential. (Ref: TRACEY B, Goals 2003)

If you want to change, act.

Karyn — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 09:27:08 +0000

Learning is in the doing. Change comes from action, not from intellectual understanding. Action results in feedback and learning. Coaching will help you to take action, move you towards your goals, live your values and test your beliefs about yourself and others.

All behaviour has a purpose

Karyn — Mon, 17 Nov 2008 17:49:52 +0000

Our actions are not random; we are always trying to achieve something. We are always moving towards some sort of goal, although we may not be aware of it. Set your own goals, because if you do not, there are many people who will happily set them for you.

We already have all the resources we need or can create them

Karyn — Mon, 10 Nov 2008 17:39:11 +0000

There are no unresourceful people, only unresourceful states of mind. I will work with you to bring out your inner resources. Your deeper wisdom is waiting to be discovered!

Phone: 07899 844933

There is no failure, only feedback

Karyn — Sun, 02 Nov 2008 17:35:46 +0000

Failure is only a judgement about short-term results. If you have not reached your goal or accomplished your task all it means is that you have not reached your goal or accomplished your task yet. Failure is not a sensible idea because you cannot prove a negative. You cannot say you have failed unless you give up and that is your choice.